What I Will Miss About the Baby StageMy final baby recently turned one, and while we celebrate, with special significance, each milestone she achieves, I find myself silently grieving the loss of the baby stage. My joy, at not being forced to face another moment of pregnancy, is unexplainable, but the ache for an infant in my arms has already begun.

I won’t miss the crying that wakes me up earlier than any alarm. I won’t miss the pungent pile of diapers that seems to grow by the hour. I won’t miss the armfuls of diaper bags, car seat handles, and other infant necessities that must be hauled everywhere I go. I won’t miss the worry over every slight fever, misplaced chokeable crumb, and hazardous stairwell opening.

I won’t miss everything, but I will miss some things.

I will miss the two syllable wail that only a newborn makes.

I will miss the smell of a freshly bathed infant head.

I will miss the indescribable softness of round baby cheeks as they nestled into my neck, cradled against my arm, and rested against my chest.

I will miss the miniature fingers that clung so desperately to one of mine.

I will miss the tiny pats from little hands clasped tightly around my back. To me they said, “I love you, mommy,” and I whispered back, “I love you, baby.”

I will miss the sweet arms that reached hopefully up to me, wordlessly pleading for the comfort of my embrace.

I will miss the light that filled my baby’s eyes as I stepped into her view. I was her everything, her guardian, her sunshine, her life, but not for long.

I will miss the swift searching turn of her head, as she heard my voice after a short absence.

I will miss the panting breaths and rooting lips of the hungry baby who has waited five extra minutes for her tummy full of warm milk.

I will miss the heart swelling sound of spontaneous baby giggles that can not be forced, but are sought for nonetheless.

I will miss the babbling sounds that all end in “a,” but are used to describe everything in a baby’s amazing world.

I will miss the teetering steps of unsteady feet as they determinedly attack the task of walking.

I will miss the beautiful feeling of trust that consumed me as my baby relaxed into my arms and contentedly drifted off to sleep. I will miss being the last thing she saw as her heavy eyes blinked one more time before slumber. I will miss cradling her impossibly small body and watching it move in rhythm with every breath. I will miss studying her still, peaceful face and whispering my heart into her ear as she dreamed.

I won’t miss changing a soiled diaper, only to have to redo it as soon as I put the the wipes away. I won’t miss sleepily stumbling through the dark, tripping over toys, trying to answer my baby’s latest call. I won’t miss the relentless washing of bottles, pacifiers, laundry, and then the dropped pacifiers again, but I will miss holding my baby in my arms. I’ll miss it until I have grandbabies, and then all will be right again.

5 comments on “Things I Will Miss Most About the Baby Stage”

  1. You are making me miss my baby already and she isn’t even 6 months old yet. I am all too familiar with the feeling because that is exactly how I felt when my son turned 1. It goes by in the blink of an eye and you do go through a grieving period of sorts missing that precious time with your baby. Okay, I’m going to go snuggle my baby now! Thanks for the reminder that I need to cherish this time, it’s easy to forget when you are living through those sleepless nights.

    • They always say it goes by so fast, but in that sleepless blur of the first few months, it’s hard to always appreciate it fully. Go snuggle that sweet baby, and I’ll chase mine down and see if I can get her to hold still long enough for a snuggle too. 🙂

  2. Oh, this makes my ovaries cry! I know exactly what you mean. My 2nd child recently turned 4 months old and she is most likely our last baby. Every day, I remind myself of this and try to breathe her in a little more than usual, stare at her a little longer than the last time, hold her a little longer than is even comfortable….I just don’t want to forget what it’s like to care for my babies. I’m trying to soak it all in and savor it. This post was bittersweet for me because it saddens me to think I won’t get to experience this again (until grandkids, like you said) but reminds me just how precious this time is. Beautiful post, Mama! -Misty

  3. That time goes so quickly and most parent are too tired to really enjoy that special time in our little ones lives especially when there are older one running around!

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